Just took a beauty of a selfie on the beach in Costa Rica? Is that you–standing on the Great Wall of China? These are experiences so gorgeous and mesmerizing you want to share them immediately with your friends, right? Bad news for you: while you think your friends will supply a caption that reads “The weather is beautiful, wish you were here” they’re far more likely to think you’re sending this message: “The weather is here–wish you were beautiful.”
Why? Because your friends are working or changing diapers or breaking up with their boyfriends–and no matter how much they like you–they don’t, deep down, want to see you having so much fun. And if they do, can’t you please have the dignity to keep it to yourself? Stop bragging. That’s what a perceptive study in the Psychological Science found. Basically, if you don’t keep these experiences to yourself, it does permanent damage to your relationships with your peers. In most cases the damage done is worse to your overall well-being, in fact, than if you’d never gone on vacation in the first place. So shut it.
