The last man I thought I loved gave me an award-winning analogy about relationships and the timing of information sharing. He told me to imagine there was a movie I wanted to see and that anticipation for the movie was really built up in my head. Then, I finally see the movie and instead of getting to sit through it and watch as they show the plot, theme and climax, etc. imagine I get the entire movie, including the ending all in the first 10 minutes of watching. I agreed that I would definitely feel disappointed, to say the least, if I had built up that much anticipation, only to have the experience cut short by a director who wanted the audience to get everything in the opening minutes. This brings me to today’s hot topic. How much “I” is TMI, in the beginning of a relationship? How much information should a woman share, when she is just getting to know a man? What are the most important cards to put on the table on dates 1, 2 and 3? How much of your movie do you show, in the opening minutes? If you don’t share enough, will you look like a liar, later? If you share too much, will you ruin the so-called mystery? Do you reveal who your exes are, right up front, if your new interest might know them? Do you keep that to yourself until you at least figure out if you really have a connection with this new guy? Where is the balance? What is the rule? Is there a rule? This brings me to today’s question. How much “I” is TMI, in the beginning of a relationship?
How much information should a woman share, when she is just getting to know a man? What are the most important cards to put on the table on dates 1, 2 and 3? How much of your movie do you show, in the opening minutes? If you don't share enough, will you look like a liar, later? If you share too much, will you ruin the so-called mystery? Do you reveal who your exes are, right up front, if your new interest might know them? Do you keep that to yourself until you at least figure out if you really have a connection with this new guy? Where is the balance? What is the rule? Is there a rule?
